Making the Decision to become a Primary Caregiver

Deciding to have a parent move in with you is a very difficult decision. There are many things to consider. The thought of becoming someone’s primary caregiver is very scary. It’s a great honor and also a hard thing to do.

Making the decision

Here are some things to consider before making your decision:

Do you have the time required to care for another person?
Do you have the extra space available in your home?
Are there any stairs in your home?
Is there room for a walker or wheelchair?
Do you have a walk-in shower?
Can you raise the toilet seat to meet their needs?
Will you be able to find help when you need a break?
Do you have a support system for them and yourself?
Is your spouse/partner on board with this decision?
Which family member is best equipped to be a caregiver?

I did have the time since I have “retired” from the insurance industry and now work from home. We have an extra bedroom and bathroom, no stairs, a walk-in shower, and my husband was more on board than I was. My siblings felt like I was the right one for the job.

Terry and I have been visiting Senior Centers and Nursing Homes for several years now through his ministry, Christian Adventurers. We have seen some places that are very nice and some that are not so nice. I don’t think that many people prepare for the day that they may need assisted living. We all want to stay in our own homes as long as possible. To be frank, these places are expensive! If you don’t have the money, you may end up in a “not so nice” place sharing a room, TV, and bathroom with someone you don’t know. No one lives their life saying, “I hope I end up in a nursing home one day”.

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Bat Attack! A Cautionary Tale

22 Comments / Life / Cathy

What is a cautionary tale? A cautionary tale is a tale told in folklore, to warn its hearer of a danger.

This is an unusual story. I think it falls under the category of “Adventures”, although it is not one that we chose. One evening last fall, Terry and I were relaxing in our Family room watching TV when all of a sudden I saw something coming down the hallway! What is that? It looked like something flying toward me. There WAS something flying toward me, it was a Bat!

So many questions! How did it get into our house? why is it flying around our Family room? How do we catch it? Will it land in my hair? Will it bite us? Immediately, our dog, Poppie(an Eskimo Dog), became alert and started chasing the bat around in circles, from the Family room through the kitchen and into the Living room. Around and Around they went. At one point, the bat landed on the floor and I thought Poppie had him, but he took flight again! I sat in my chair with my head covered under a blanket. My husband got a broom and tried to get the bat to go out the front door. Eventually, Poppie cornered him and that was that! We had only intended on chasing the bat out the door but we could not control our dog at that point, the bat was dead. It turned out to be a good thing.

RABIES

We put the bat in a plastic bag out on our front porch. We intended to just throw it away, but then it hit me! Maybe it could have rabies! I don’t know why I had that thought, maybe because it had been in our house and that our dog had come in contact with it. Anyway, the next morning we contacted the County Health Department. They came out and took the bat for testing. It didn’t take long to receive the call that it did indeed have RABIES! We received many calls from various departments. They wanted to make sure our dog was up to date on his rabies shots. They asked us all kinds of questions, it was suggested that we take our dog for a booster and that we might want to get the series of rabies shots ourselves. WHAT? Rabies shots! My mind went to the “olden days”, doesn’t that mean like 15 shots in the stomach! WHAT?

We took Poppie the next day for his booster shot, the County wanted to quarantine him at their facility for 30 days, but since he was up to date on his shots, they agreed that we could just watch him at home. We were supposed to watch him at home for 6 weeks! He never developed any symptoms, YAY! I guess that having a rabid bat in your house was a big deal in our County. The local TV News channel came to our house for an interview, and all our neighbors were asking us questions. We were celebrities!

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